Pretty much everyone, everywhere in the world has this grass is greener somewhere else in some other country delusion. (apart from Americans who are deluded to think their grass is by far the greenest when in fact it is far from it!)
This is perhaps the nature of “maya” and its illusion, of greener pastures, which is a mirage, like a shiny carrot on a stick, designed in the psyche to motivate the otherwise unmotivated person. So many people are hunting for this pseudo-paradise, but those of us who have traveled extensively, know that everywhere has a bit of heaven, a bit of hell and a lot of somewhere quite ordinary.
I was asked in Russia where did Australian people want to go? Where were the greener pastures for Australian people? Because for Russians, I was told it is in London or Hawaii.
I said, Australians suffer from the grass is greener delusion as much as people from any other country. But at the end of it, there is no place where you will find big numbers of Australian ex-pats who stay for any major length of time, because many Australian who actually do travel, realise Australia is probably better in so many practical ways. And yet I think many also understand Australia has so many issues under the skin, and so many Australian stay away, getting recognised for what they do and normally getting paid more than in Australia. (10% of the Australian population is overseas at any given time)
And this is the thing I am continually explaining to people while traveling, they want to believe in Australia as this paradisaical country, as this dreamland where all their dreams will come true. So I often have a laundry list of things I tell these people if I think they are receptive and thoughtful, and here are the some of the things that I say. Keep in mind, I’m talking about greater majorities and also to a large degree about white Australians, who are still the greater majority and also I’m trying to communicate understandings of culture and my nuts of bolts view of the realities of most people’s lifestyle in a succinct and general manner. And this is relevent when I wrote it down in 2016, but lets hope it will be less relevent in a few years time!
In Australia, people want to keep you small. They themselves want to be small, and a lot of people there lack confidence or self esteem to any significant degree. Why do Australia people do commonly lack such confidence and why is having a secure sense of self so hard for Australians? I think it is because they have no foundation. They don’t know who they are in a cultural sense, and they are also SO disconnected from the land, (I’m sure the aboriginals cursed the white people!) that they really are carrying on colonial programming from bygone times, without really questioning it most of the time.
White Australian people don’t even really ask where they are from or what their roots are. Most of them don’t even know that white Australia is primarily made up of Irish and English immigrants in about equal measure, not convicts as is commonly believed. Actually, only 30% of Australians have ANY convict blood. Australians like to believe in themselves as the underdogs, when they are more like pirates, who live these understated, uninspired, mean spirited, small minded, selfish lives, while there is millions rotting away in the bank (or in property), as Australian people are statistically the richest people in the world.
And yet don’t think anyone else gets any of it!
“When it came to social conscience, around 47.4% of them said it was important to give time, money, and/or expertise with the goal of generating social impact – well below the global average of 60.5% and countries such as India (90.5%), China (89.4%), Indonesia (89.2%), and Hong Kong (82.1%).”
The freaking Queen is still on the coin, the union jack is still on the flag. That should tell you something, I tell people, and you can see how they maintain English social values, which means keeping an emotionless stiff upper lip is tough, and men propose that their armouring and hard, artificially blokey social exterior is a virtue, rather than a groaning dead weight of artifice.
There is no decent social fabric in Australia, not so much in the way of community. Good luck making friends, I say if you ever emigrate to Australia! I’m not sure very many Australian people really know how to make friends or really talk to one another about much that matters. They allow themselves 1 or 2 D & M’s a year. (deep and meaningful conversations) A Russian friend told me she loved the winter in Russia because friends would come over and you would talk about meaningful things all night together. She said she never found any culture in Australia of people even going to each others houses and talking at all!
I say people from other countries come to Australia and bemoan the lack of a decent social fabric and community values: where is the nightlife apart from the pub and “youth culture”? they say. And there are no real family values at the end of the day. If Jeanette meets Josh and he has a nice sixpack – there goes the family. I know a guy whose wife met a rich guy in the pub. Then HE spent a million dollars trying to get access to his kids, but she could afford better lawyers and hasn’t seen his kids in years. These sort of stories are not at all uncommon.
People who have emigrated to Australia from Sudan will tell you, my life in Sudan was great, I just drank tea with my friends, and didn’t have to work much. Here in Australia, I work two jobs and live in a shitty suburb and for what? People from countries like Macedonia to Iran will tell you how unhappy they are with the nature of suburban life (Australia being probably the most suburban culture on earth), and its eternally (but very safely!) wrapt up in cotton wool loneliness. They will reel off their complaints with the culture and so many are very bitter about it, as most of their life they believed in the “dream” and now they feel shafted to live in such a soulless vacuum of model vapid consumerism.
I say to people, look, people in Australia live to work. They don’t know what else to do with themselves for the most part. Without work they’d fall apart and have to look hard at themselves. Most of them are drones, mere zombies whose life consists of long hours of work and Television. This seems to especially grate with people’s illusions, as they like to think all Australians are bright, exuberant, beach going blondes living in vibrant communities such as “Home and Away” and “Neighbours”.
Australian people are not happy. You just don’t see real happy people in Australia. When they are not working, the only way many know to loosen up is to drink heavily, smoke meth and get trashed, which is when all the garbage repression and violence spills out into the streets.
People in Australia are often very egotistical, but it is typically socially appropriate to keep their ego drawn in, and so their internal egoic dialogue is especially distorted and insane. Australians like to keep each others egos in check with cutting comments and obnoxious reminders, designed to keep you a knock around kind of a bloke just like one of the boys! Good luck trying to get many compliments or encouragement from Australian people. A friend had a poetry book launch and told me nobody communicated to her anything of much consequence. Maybe this is why self esteem is such an issue if you live in a culture where everyone is starving for encouraging words or even feedback, positive or negative! People just can’t seem to be bothered. They don’t care about your growth. In fact, your only reminder is to stay the same small size as all the other poppies in the field!
Australians don’t want to talk about personal things easily. It is too much for them, as such exposes their insanity. Whereas, people from other countries can more often talk about their inner world in some sort of direct manner without going into reactivity. Most Australians can’t handle real personal criticism, even of any slightly critical or negative bent, because they themselves are deluded to think they are ok, because nobody can be bothered to criticise them, because other people know they can’t handle the criticism, resulting in over reactions of an epic nature, such as epic grudges lasting years. Their egos are too big and so there is no culture of constructive criticism, and so people are deluded to think they are OK. This breeds a culture of denial and festering unself critical bloated egocentricism, and a commonly observed vicious two faced back stabbing epidemic.
D.H. Lawrence said he thought Australians didn’t care, and though they thought that was “manly” and “tough’! The overall culture is clearly one of avoidance and suppression, rather than facing issues head on. “She’ll be right mate!”
And Australia is probably almost as corrupt as many corrupt countries, it is just the corruption is hidden, you can’t find it as easily, and most people think everything is OK, until the system stings them!
Another thing, I say, is that so many women, have had sexual abuse coming from members of their family. This is just crazy and creates a very unhealthy sexual culture. I saw a father on Facebook complain of how being affectionate to his daughter only bought dissaproving looks. Love has been long confused with sex in Australia. Touching another man with affection will get you gay bashed in Australia. You have been warned!
Australian values are essentially european white values, which prioritise efficiency and a mechanical nature above human values. Australians, if they see a problem in their culture at all, is that things are not as efficient or mechanical enough, and so Australians think their view of how Germany and Switzerland is, is how things should be like. (where things are supposed to “better”)
But it is not that Australia needs to be more like a machine, but it might help if people took pride in themselves, not as Australians, but understood their real value as human beings on planet earth. That being said, they are often patriotic, which is only to say they believe in themselves AS Australians. Overall, they don’t really take much pride in themselves, or put much effort into doing so, not like people from other countries. In fact, they don’t really have to, who cares? when you can just go to the beach and have a beer? I call Australia, “put another prawn on the barbie land”, where civil rights are being eroded at a very fast pace, the country is being mined, farmed and fracked into oblivion, sold off to the Chinese, any vestige of a “good time” being red taped and banned because of “safety issues” and the people’s pensions are quickly evaporating. Whereas, in other wealthy countries, like Norway and Switzerland, the government actually attempts to take care of the people and create a better quality of life for them, rather than just squeeze as much out of them as possible.
At the end of it, Australian people largely don’t understand their own value or essentially know what value is. And that is the real problem, the real root of the problem at hand is also their identification as being Australians in the first place!
Australian people don’t take themselves too seriously, which can be a negative trait just as much as a positive one. As such, there is almost no passion in the overall culture. And the country typically has a repressed, suppressed, flattened, vacuous vibe. The atmosphere is flat and of low quality. It is not inspiring. Very little is inspiring. There is no romance in the air. There is no dreaming. Dreams are to be shot down on sight. Feelings are to stamped out. Unless you are a bogan, any true or authentic response is forbidden. The primary aspirations people have are merely material, with the primary obsession being “security”.
Safety, Cotton Wool. Death.
Even on public transport in remote metropolitan train stations are walking around menacing looking pretend cops with guns, eyeing everyone and hassling people for minor infractions of behavior. While in some of the safest cities on earth, the nightlife in cities is being destroyed by oppressive, bureaucratic laws, all in the name of “safety”.
White Australians largely still believe in the ethos of their version of the English upper class as having some validity or desirability, that being cunt headed, elevatedly removed from reality and particularly manufactured, repressed, boring, conformist, unfriendly, mean spirited person who is on a superiority trip, is somehow worthwhile or desirable. Therefore, there are a lot of people they are unreasonably obsessed about this flimsy so-called class system which does not denote very much at all, but some shallow indicators of so-called status and presumably power. At the end of it, apart from having the money and power, the old moneyed upper middle classes don’t value the giving of any value, have no true culture or ethos, direction, but that of retaining the crusty nature of the club of rickety colonial standards of conduct, power and privilege.
Oh, and I say, these are some bad things I can think of right now, and there are many good things of course. But normally that is enough to leave them a little shocked and to burst their satellite TV fantasies of there being a “better” life in Australia.